Is Self Love Selfish?

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Do you tend to meet other peoples needs before your own?

Do you pick on yourself, the way you act or the way you look?

Do you often feel guilty or shameful for the food choices you make?

Do you hold your tongue in situations often so as to not “make waves?”

Is it difficult for you to tell people NO?

Do you feel selfish accepting help from others or taking time for your needs?

Are you feeling mentally and physically drained day to day?


If you answered yes to  most of these you could have a negative association with self-love.

 WHAT is self love?

It’s the deliberate practice of taking responsibility for your needs and desires by creating your life in a way that honors them.

TAKING RESPONSIBILITY for your NEEDS and DESIRES. <—-Who else is gonna take responsibility for your needs and desires? HINT: It’s not your boyfriend, your mom or your BFF.


I was led to believe it was narcissistic for wanting to put my needs first, that the ultimate act of love was to give all you had to others.



It totally feels good to share the wealth! When you are able to lift someone else’s spirits in any way,  it makes your heart explode with love and gratitude…


…but if we continually give love to everyone else without REPLENISHING our own stock, we eventually drain our resources!


The truth is that when we love ourselves first, we acknowledge our own POWER. Self-love translates to HOW YOU VALUE YOURSELF. If you don’t value yourself, you allow others to take advantage of your time and energy, thereby rendering you a less vibrant, less productive person.


Accept your body and mind as it stands NOW, not in the future when you lose 10 lbs or meet the person of your dreams. It is so very difficult to build strong connections with others when you don’t have a sturdy foundation of self love to begin with.


When you have refueled your self love tank, your capacity to positively influence others expands.

So ask yourself…


If I truly loved myself, what would I do?


I want to hear from you!

Leave a comment below and tell me what you would do if you truly loved yourself TODAY!


XOxO Sam



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